Woman Kicks Out Her Brother-in-law From His Family's Home After She Buys It, Causing Family and Financial Dispute

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    r/AITAH 4 days ago pigpin9one AITAH for telling my in laws that I will go through and get rid of whatever I choose to and kicking my BIL out of their parents/ grandparents home
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    My (32M) husband and I (29F) purchased his grandparents estate after both grandparents passed away, he did not inherit it. The family chose to sell the entire estate without claiming or removing any property. The estate was left to the family to receive equal shares amongst two children and four grandchildren,
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    including my husband. The family chose to sell and receive the money in equal shares. My husband and I chose to purchase the estate. My (33M) BIL was living in the house as his grandparents had agreed to help him get on his feet after the break up with his child's mother. He has substance abuse issues and has been unemployed since
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    the birth of his child, his child's mother supported him before they broke up a year ago. We agreed to allow him to stay if he contributed to the monthly bills and got up to care for his child and his pets rather than leaving that responsibility to whoever was awake/ home and if no one was awake/home his 3 YO was
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    left unattended. He refused, I told him he needed to move out and he refused to move out I made it clear it was not an option. I packed all of his and his child's things and moved them out of the bedroom he was staying to the garage. My husband's family then informed me that was not my place and I have no right. His
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    mother showed up unannounced to our house to find I had cleaned out other rooms in the house and she and two other family members informed me I| would not be going through, moving, getting rid of anything in the home as it belongs to their parents/ grandparents and it was not my place. I responded by saying they were welcome to ask
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    for anything specific they regret selling with the estate but this is my home and I will do whatever I want. They asked that I give them time to come and go through things themselves to which I said no, if it is not garbage it will be placed in storage until everything has been gone through and my husband has kept what he wants and the rest will be sold or
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    donated at that time they are free to go through things. I explained that they would not be contacting any other person who purchased the estate and it is ridiculous they feel comfortable contacting me with demands. After I refused to "acknowledge their feelings" they attempted to have my husband confront me and for him to stop "allowing me
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    to be so disrespectful", my husbands response "I can not control her and this is our home." AITAH?
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    EDIT- BIL is on state assistance so Department of Family Services is already aware of their situation. All involved grandparents are aware of the situation as well. When the child's mother spoke with us she stated she works, baby has always been with dad, and dad has custody so what is she supposed to do. The child's mother also has substance abuse
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    issues. (Both parents are alcoholics and use THC substances which are legal in this state) we cannot confirm if other substances. BIL moved in about three months prior to grandparents both being gone. The estate was in probate and on the market (combined time) for nine months and we paid market
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    price, no "family discount". My husband lived with his grandparents from 7 years old until he was 27 years old, when we moved in together. One day a week we had dinner with his grandparents at their home to check on them and spend time. The rest of the family live in other towns 30 minutes to an hour
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    away. My husband works outside of the home and I work at home. We also have three children (my (12M) child from a previous relationship and two of our own) of our own who need to have their own space in our home. Second EDIT- We kept BILs pets as he is unable to care for them and offered to have the child stay with us while the parents decide
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    what to do, both parents said no. I do not agree with the family. dynamics my husband's family has not to say I don't like them but they enable one another and their child (my husband included) to act irresponsibly and irrationally. They had nine months to claim items they wanted and after we purchased they had 45 days to go through things. Again
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    anything that is not literally garbage or unusable or in need of extensive repair is in storage to be gone through for sale and donation.
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    wife20yrs •4d ago NTA. They sold it, you bought it. It doesn't belong to them anymore. They are not dealing in reality.
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    grayblue_grrl • 4d ago You have to do the whole security thing now. Cameras, change the locks. Who knows who has keys. It's a shame because it could have been simple, but some people just never try.
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    But now they have messed up, plan to ask for money. $25 for the dining room set. Whatever. Everything was bought and paid for by you and your husband. Just keep saying it. "It's our home."
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    dana_marie_ph • 4d ago NTA. Like you said, you purchased it. It belongs to you. They have no say. Give BIL eviction notice. Make sure everything is documented. It will be a hard battle but stand your ground!
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    lonewolf369963 4d ago NTA. Change the locks and install cameras in case they try to trespass.

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